Dear Annie: Thinking about moving away from grandkids? Don’t.

Dear Annie: You have printed letters from grandparents who are considering moving away from their grandkids, and I have some advice based on personal experience: DON’T DO IT!

This is my life right now, post-retirement. My husband and I lived in the busy boroughs of New York City, where I was happy, and then moved to a less-populated area. Our move took us only one hour away from our grandchildren, but it might as well be a million miles away.

My husband loves it, but I feel isolated and bored. There’s not a great selection of things to do without factoring in a long drive. The few things that I find enjoyable are seasonal and short-lived. Almost no one comes to visit, so I find myself on the constant driving end, which is draining in itself when you want to participate in daily or weekly events.

My eyes have so many miles on them.

Before moving, after retirement, couples should pay attention to what they enjoy about where they live, especially the little things. We live far enough that we can’t get R&B radio reception; I never realized how much that small thing affects me daily.

I long to just hear the radio.

I miss the proximity of what I call “civilization” and family and neighborly neighbors. The new neighbors are not neighborly. The entire community keeps to themselves and basically stays indoors; there are no kids playing outdoors. I miss the sight of children playing and signs of life.

Put serious thought into upending your life to move a plane ride away, or even a one-hour drive away.

— Regretful

Dear Regretful: Thank you for your letter. I do hope that you and your husband can go to counseling or come up with a better compromise than the one you have now. You should not be that miserable where you are living. Please talk to him. You can always move back somewhere closer and more urban.

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