Dear Abby: Should we forgive friends who wrongly accused us of theft?

Dear Abby: We have been friends with a couple for many, many years. Unfortunately, someone took some items out of their house. Our long friendship is now over because they think we stole from them. Although they have gotten over it, we cannot. They say it’s “in the past” and it’s time to move on. They can’t understand that we feel so insulted that we no longer want to remain friends with them. They never offered an apology, which makes us feel they still doubt us. Are we oversensitive?

—Innocent in New Hampshire

Dear Innocent: No, you are not. In light of the fact that you never received an apology for the wrongful accusation, it makes sense that you not put yourselves in the position of being accused again.

My Stepdaughter-in-law apologized to me but is still distant

Dear Abby: My stepdaughter-in-law and I had words several months ago. Within a few days, I received an apology, and I apologized to her for my response. Since then, she has blocked me and told a mutual friend she won’t be coming to family gatherings, which she rarely attended anyway.

We recently attended the funeral of a close family friend. She came, but I noticed she seemed unusually quiet and uncomfortable. She barely spoke unless spoken to, but did hug me goodbye. Should I ask her why she blocked me or let it go?

—Confounded in Texas

Dear Confounded: Your stepdaughter-in-law is starting to thaw. If I were you, I would let sleeping dogs lie.

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