Dear Amy: I need a gut check.
I’ve been with my girlfriend, “Stella” for three years. We are in our late-20′s.
Stella is great. She is gorgeous and loving and very nice. Everyone loves her. I do, too.
The problem I’m having is that she is extremely gullible. She believes whatever conspiracy nonsense has most recently floated through her social media feed. Most of this misinformation has to do with health-related issues and because she follows and comments on it, she is fed more of it.
Her latest bit is that she believes that cellphones cause brain cancer.
She can believe whatever she wants, but now this is starting to interfere with my own life because she is trying to influence me.
I’m tired of this and thinking of breaking up with her, but this seems like a trivial reason to break up with someone who is so great in every other respect.
Can you weigh in?
– Bored
Dear Bored: What a person thinks – and how a person thinks – is not a trivial matter. According to you, your girlfriend is also trying to control you.
Do you want to go through life having to defend your own rational choices?
Do you want to possibly have a family with someone whose views about health and wellness are so radically different from your own?
I sincerely doubt it.
Dear Amy: “Tricked in Illinois” believed her mother was manipulating her by asking for a ride to church.
My late mother wanted a ride to church on Christmas Eve and I was too busy and selfish to notice.
She got a ride with my brother-in-law, who was divorced from my sister.
He understood! I will always regret that day.
– Wanda
Dear Wanda: “Tricked in Illinois” described a history of manipulation, but I hope she will make her choice based on your perspective.
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