Dear Amy: I am a retired woman, living alone. I inherited a box of very old photos, well over 100 years old.
At the bottom of the box, I found a dozen small, beautifully framed “adult” photos.
While I am certain that these were hardcore for their time, they are quite tame by modern standards, featuring partial nudity, unlaced bodices and rolled stockings.
The most seductive photo is of a bride getting a romantic kiss on her wedding night.
I was immediately taken with these lovely images, and so I grouped them together to display in my bedroom, which is a very private room in my home. (I am a retired woman living alone.)
As soon as she saw them, my older sister began insisting that I take them down, because “people will think you’re gay, or some kind of pervert.”
I pointed out that anyone in my bedroom knows me well enough to know the truth of me, and who cares what anyone else thinks?
My sister, and now several of her friends, are outraged at my “pornographic display.”
Can you help me come up with a comment to stop further discussion?
– Art Lover
Dear Art Lover: This sounds like a cool and unique collection to display in your bedroom.
Responding to comments or critiques from the various biddies in your life, you might arch an eyebrow and say, “Well, you’re right. I’ve been holding out on you. My secret is out. I am in fact gay, and have a special attraction to boudoir beauties from the Victorian era. Last night I had a dream about Virginia Woolf. We were ballroom dancing on board the Titanic.”
In short – own this; don’t explain and don’t apologize.
And perverted? Would your sister be scandalized if you had a reproduction of the Venus di Milo or of Michelangelo’s “David” in your bedroom? Would she be shocked by anyone gazing upon Rodin’s “The Kiss”? Perhaps. But this is very much her problem. Don’t make it yours.
Dear Amy: “Superstitious” wondered what to do with his bad luck wedding band from a previous marriage. He should melt it down and donate the proceeds to a favorite charity.
– Charitable
Dear Charitable: This is an option worth exploring (many readers have suggested it), but this process might cost more than the gold in the ring is worth.
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