Dear Amy: I am a relatively healthy 81-year-old retired university professor.
I hike over eight miles per day. I am happily married with one daughter and two grandchildren.
Unfortunately, I was recently diagnosed with preliminary Alzheimer’s disease. I’ve told my wife and daughter about this, but no one else.
I am fully aware of my memory problems, but they are not yet obvious to others. When I meet someone and they say, “Hello, Sam. How are you?” I say. “Fine. And you?”
I almost never know their name instantly. I presume I will get worse with time. How do I handle revealing the underlying diagnosis to folks as time passes?
— Call Me Sam
Dear Call Me Sam: There is no sturdy protocol for how to handle revealing your diagnosis, but I suggest that you should do this only at a time that feels right for you, and in a way that reflects your strong intellect, healthy body, and stout character.
Today I’m remembering my late and great Aunt Jean, who disclosed her diagnosis to family members all at once during our weekly diner breakfast, and she did so in a completely straightforward and good-humored way. Her candor completely opened the door, setting the tone for many honest and funny conversations well into the future.
Dear Amy: You offered such helpful suggestions to “Friendless,” a middle-aged mom who was looking to make friends.
I’d like to add “Bumble BFF” as a great way to match online with potential friends.
— Worked for Me
Dear Worked for Me: Yes! I appreciate that the popular dating app found a way to promote platonic matches.
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